Thursday, December 23, 2021

Bye 2021! Hello! 2022

 The last days of this year are fast approaching.

I know I am not the only one to say that this year has been challenging, very hard, at least for me.

My relationship with my second partner came to an end. An end that was not very hard for me because I knew it was the right decision.

What was hard for me was the process of emotions and the realization of how much that relationship changed me. I did not realize that until after the relationship ended.

I have been processing my thoughts and emotions with my real-life husband and psychologist. I am not ashamed to say that I needed/need help in that way.


Its been hard trying to get back to "the me" before this relationship, but I can now say that I am well on my way to get there again, and I am so grateful for that.

As the year slowly got better and better for me, I have found my love for audiobooks and drawing again♥  it has been so relaxing and mind-clearing that I am now wondering why I ever stopped.

Second life has been tranquil for me the last 2 months, so second life has become more of something that I have been logged into but mostly doing other things in my real life.

It is not that fun when it feels like no one is talking to you.

But I am sure that will also change. Second life has this thing where it kind of "dies down" in periods, at least for me.

 As I go into a new year, I turn the page. I am hoping for a very positive year as I turn the page.

I hope to spread more awareness regarding disability, and I hope to empower more people not to hide their disability just because second life is a Virtual reality platform.

I will also work as hard as possible to bring more disability to second life.

I am working closely with a mesh creator to bring never before seen disability Equipment into second life.

I will continue writing my erotica, don't worry. Writing erotica is something I will never stop doing. If anything, my goal for 2022 is to write more of them.

My word for 2022 is renewal.

What is your word, and what does it mean to you?

♥Tessa♥





Thursday, December 9, 2021

๐Ÿ’žThe one I can't forget ๐Ÿ’ž (erotica) TRUE! From RL



About a month before I met my now Real life Husband, this actually happened.

Late at night, I was checking my messages on a body-contact website. Yes, it is a website mainly based on people hooking up. At this point in my life, I had been single for 9 years, primarily due to my overprotective mother. So I was checking my messages, and there was one message from a man that Caught my attention. I mean, mostly, I got messages from people that were just...Appalling and weird, to say the least.

So he really Caught my attention in a very, very good way.

The title was "PLEASE! Let me be the one that gets to meet you!"

I have always been a very open and honest person, so he knew about my disability from the start because I put it in my profile.

Of course, I responded to the message, and after a few letters, we exchanged phone numbers and started texting.

He sent me a photo of him when he was in the bath, and I sent a picture of me back. Oh my god, when I saw his photo, I think I stopped breathing for like 2 seconds, and I had a hard time believing that this guy was actually attracted to me!

I mean, he could get any girl that he wanted, why me? In a wheelchair?

After a few texts, HE asked me if I would like to come over for dinner that weekend. I was a little taken aback, and I felt myself blushing when I wrote: "But I need help with stuff.... I don't know," he wrote back, " I know you do. I can do it if you show me how."
Then he wrote in another text, "please just come over? please? please, baby?"

I smiled, and I wrote back, "Yes, I would love to."

We texted every day, and before we both knew it was Saturday, I had gotten my sister to help me take a shower and shave my bits, of course not telling her or anyone where I was really going to.

I had loose blue jeans and a red top. As I waited in the cab, I texted him, "I can't wait to see you."
I got into the cab, and when I was about halfway to his place, I still had not gotten a text back from him, so I decided to call him.... it felt like hours before he picked up..." Hello?" he said with a groggy voice. I spoke with a smile, "Hi... it's me... Tessa," I could hear him smiling"oh, I just woke up to an angel's voice... hi baby" I blush hard, and I smile, saying, "I am about halfway to your place."
He says softly, "yeah yeah, I'm awake ill get up, love...thank you for the lovely wake-up call... I will see you soon, baby," we hang up.

the time passes, and I text him, "I think I'm here, baby:)" he texts back, "OK, 'll, come down."
The driver of my cab unhooks my chair from the floor, and I back out of the cab, and as I look to my left....there he is.... our eyes meet. He smiles, "Hey, you" I smile with a million butterflies in my stomach " hey, you" He holds the door open but still turns my way as I make my way over to him. he looks down into my eyes as he takes his hand to the back of my neck leaving his thumb on my cheek, pulling me in so that we are forehead to forehead, he strokes my cheek with his thumb whispering "hey you sexy thing" of course I start blushing so hard I had to break the eye contact, he whispered "nono hey hey look at me....look at me baby" he lifts my head back up and whispers "there you are... it's just me" we start to kiss slowly.

I moan softly in the kiss, and so does he. He whispers almost without letting go of the kiss, "Oh my fucking god mmmm," he whispers again, "OK, I'm going to let go of the front door and kiss you the way you deserve" I smile softly against his lips as I nod, the kiss gets deeper. He lays his other hand the same way he did the first one. "Mmmmm baby, mmmm, oh my god, mmm," we keep kissing, and I lay my hands around the back of his neck. He smiles against my lips as I smile back against his. He whispers, "oh, you feel more relaxed now, baby?" I whisper, " mhmm, I do."

We both breathe a little nervous, and I kiss him again slowly. He whispers against my lips with a soft smile, "Good girl," then we kiss again... he takes my hand. We slowly break the kiss, and I smile, looking into his eyes. He opens the front door again, smiling, "after you, baby," I make my way to the elevator....then it reality hits like a ton of bricks...oh yeah, my wheelchair... elevator... yeah.
I try to keep my thoughts from showing up on my face...But it's too late. He can see it. He smiles, Squeezing my hand softly. "It's OK, you know, I hate the stairs anyway, and besides, I can kiss you all the way up to my floor, so I would say it's a good thing to take the elevator if you ask me." He smirks. I look up at him with a big grin. "Oh, really now? It sounds like you are talking from experience?" I keep grinning as he answers, "Me? nooo, never now I don't know what you are talking about" we laugh softly.
As we walk into the elevator," you are such a liar, " I say to him," We laugh again. He says, "I don't know what you talking about, baby? I just Fabricated the truth a little," we burst out laughing. I say simultaneously as I am laughing," Oh my god! You little ass" my back is turned to him. At this point, he does something I had never experienced before....He takes his arms around my waist and whispers into my ear, "mmmm, I am so glad you are here" we start going up. He takes my hands in his whispering "now, I want you to tell me what you love to have done to you sexually" I lay my head back on his shoulder answering " well.... well the thing is... I have not had sex in 9 years...He stops me "wait, you have not had sex in 9 years? 9!? he turns my head to his, and I lock eyes with his and say, "yes, 9 years...he leans his forehead on mine, and we kiss again... He smiles against my lips as he pulls away from a bit of saying- wow mmmm No pressure at all he laughs softly, and I do the same. The elevator comes to a stop. Oh, we're here, he says. He takes my hand and whispers, let's go in, baby, l back out of the elevator. He again does something that I had never experienced before up to that point. As I turn my wheelchair to go forward, he takes my hand and walks in front of me. Still holding my hand at that moment, I felt so typical in the way.

He and I had never spoken upfront about having sex. Still, I knew that it would be with him if I had sex with somebody, and I had made up my mind about that before I even stepped over the thresh Hold to his apartment.

He strokes my hand with his fingers and walks in. He asks if he needs to move anything out of the way or if it's OK? I smile and say its OK,

he takes his jacket off at the same time as I am trying to take off my coat. I feel the panic set in when I realize I can't take off my jacket by myself, he sees me struggling, but he doesn't jump the gun and help me right away, which I prefer it to be.

He lets me struggle a little more before he says,- oh for God sakes, woman, let me help you!

we both burst out laughing,

He says with laughter in his voice, you know women constantly feel that they need to prove that they can do things on their own, and I am like, do they ever occur to you, Women that a guy might just want to be friendly and help?!

I laugh even more, and he kisses me, and Of course, I kiss him back. He hangs up our jackets and takes my hand, and steps as close as he can to me.
I softly smile, and he whispers,- are you OK, sweetheart? I nod and softly answer, yeah, I am. He smiles, and we kiss again.


He breaks the kiss and whispers, I am so glad you are here baby, I did not think you would respond to my first "letter" even, and now I have you in my arms.

I blush softly and lean my forehead on his and whisper- I just could not say no to you, baby, you are so romantic and loving, and that is what I want and need in a guy.

We kiss very slowly.... he breaks the kiss a little as he asks,- so what do you want to, baby? I close my eyes and whisper- I want to make love to you..... I want to have sex with you.....I want to end up in bed with you...
I slowly open my eyes .... he takes his hands to the sides of my face. As he looks into my eyes, he softly says,- are you sure you want me to make love to you? I mean, it has been so long for you...I whisper to him- I am sure, baby. He whispers, yeah? And I whisper yeah....we kiss, and he breaks the kiss whispering- I won't do anything you don't want to do, and I won't hurt you... it might hurt a little since it has been so long, but I will make you really, really wet.
I smile, a bit Nervous, and he can see it... he smiles and whispers, just relax.. we kiss softly as he pushes my wheelchair backward... We end up in his bedroom, where we softly break the kiss... he looks into my eyes and says,- can we take this off, baby? He pulls on my top a little, and without answering him, I slowly lift my arms up... his breathing is heavier as he pulls my top up slowly. He whispers, Oh my god... baby... you... you are so so beautiful... holy crap...
I blush at his words. He moves in kisses me sincerely, holding my face in his hands.


He breaks the kiss slowly as he whispers, can I lift you to the bed?


I breathe in deeply, feeling myself blush. Thoughts are running through my head, but I know I want this somehow. I hear myself slowly say, yes, you can. He responds by slowly whispering back. Are you sure?

This may sound corny, but I remember telling him that I've never been so sure about anything in my life up until now.

We kiss deeply as he takes my arms and places them around the back of his neck. He whispers Hold on tight, baby. I nod, and he lifts me up from my wheelchair. I remember thinking, wow, he is strong!

He kisses my cheek on the way to the bed. He softly says Girl, you are light as a Feather for me.

He puts a knee on the bed, laying me down gently with him. He sighs softly, mmm, evening lights, bed, you on the bed with me. What is better than this?

I smile, saying softly, not much more can top this for sure.

We kiss, talk, and cuddle for a long time. With no spoken words, we begin to explore each other's bodies. In a kiss, he spreads my legs a little with his.

With his forehead pressed to mine, looking into my eyes, he begins to grind his hips back and forth against mine, not penetrating me yet. I look into his eyes, letting my face "talk" to him. He whispers as he moans, breathe, baby, Let me hear you.

I moan as we kiss. He picks up speed a little. He feels me trying to spread my legs more, so he helps me. We kiss deep and passionately. He pants close to my lips. Can I give you an orgasm? I nod to him as he asks Yeah? Yeah? are you sure, baby? I nod again as we kiss. He sits up as he takes my pants off. I feel myself blush hard as his hands roam my body. Gently and softly, he whispers, god! You're so beautiful! His hands go from my feet all the way up to my face, then down again.

He plants kisses on my stomach before laying down on top of me as we kiss.

I feel his hand moving down my stomach and into my panties in the kiss. My mouth unwillingly lets go of our kiss as I moan gently. He starts to kiss the side of my neck as his hand picks up speed. I moan louder and louder as he pants into my ear. Yes, Yes! Go for it! I scream, I will cum so fucking hard I don't know what to do!

He presses his forehead to mine. You're going to cum, baby. Cum cum cum hard!

I scream at the top of my lungs in an orgasm that is so intense I have never felt anything like it since.

My body shakes so hard he has to hold me down and cover my mouth with his. Still moving his hand on my pussy. I scream in his mouth for 2 minutes straight, or at least that's what it feels like. 2 More orgasms flooded my body during that time.

I start to cry out of the sheer intensity and pleasure we softly kiss and touch each other. he softly says, my hand is soaked, baby. He smiles against my lips.

As I lay there still trying to recuperate, a soft smile breaks into my face, and I softly say to him, well, it's your fault. We laugh a little, and he askes me if I am OK?

I answer yes, I am.

He brushes his hand through my hair as he says, you having an orgasm is probably the most beautiful thing I've ever seen.

I blush so hard it feels like I am turning into a tomato at this point.

I hide my face in my hands, and he whispers, no, don't hide your face, don't feel embarrassed. I loved every second of it.

We kiss deeply. I can feel him taking off his pants. He whispers against my lips, wait here, I want to get the lube. I nod.
While he is away, I can't help but have the biggest smile on my face on the orgasms and that this is not a dream. This is happening.


He comes back and lays on the bed, kissing me. We will not need lube, but I don't want to hurt you.


We just lay there in bed touching, feeling, and moaning.
He lays down on top of me again, saying softly can I be a little blunt?
I nod in response.


He kisses me while having his hands in my hair.
He whispers in my ear do you want to suck my cock, baby?


I respond by turning his head to me and kissing him, nodding.


After a bit of fidgeting around trying to figure out what the best position would be, I am lying on my back, wrapping my hand around his cock, slowly taking it into my mouth.


I suck slowly. He is whispering and moaning slow baby slow oh my fucking god!


He takes his hands in my hair and just holds it. He moans. Mmmmm, fuck! Your so good at that, baby.
I smile with my eyes up at him, and he smiles back your so sexy with my cock in your mouth.


He moans, you sexy little redhead.


I start to suck faster. He is moaning louder in disbelief, almost
OH!! MY FUCKING GOD!!! YOU! ARE NOT SO Innocent, after all!!!!!

Suddenly without warning, I Deep throat him. His entire cock is in my throat, and he screams in pleasure, BABY!!! BABY, I'M FUCKING CUMMING!!!OOOHHHHH, GOD!!!! MY FUCK YES!!


His hands slam onto the wall as he cums down my throat. His hands move to cup my face and kiss my head as he is still cumming and shaking hard.


He pulls out of my mouth slowly, almost falling down on his back. OH! MY GOD! WOMAN!!
I swallow with a smile, and we kiss. He panting hard, stroking my hair. Once again, we go back to kissing, touching, and moaning.


After a while, he whispers- I want to penetrate you, I want you to feel me inside you. Can I do that? Do you want me to?


I softly whisper, yes, I want you to be inside me. We kiss, he puts on a condom and puts extra lube on both of us.




My heart is going on million miles an hour, and he can see it. He whispers as he lays down on top of me, This can hurt a little, but I will go slow. Try to breathe and relax, baby.

I nod, kissing him. He strokes my arms, laying them above my head with one of his hands going back down between us, grabbing his cock.

He presses his forehead to mine and whispers eyes on me, baby. We kiss deeply as I can feel him pressing into my opening. I breathe in sharply. He kisses me deeper as if to say, "breath, relax."

I moan into his mouth. Oh my god! Oh!

He laces his hands with mine, moaning, good Girl, you're my good girl.

I moan for him to pick up speed, and he does. I squeeze his hands and moan loud as we kiss. he holds both of my hands with one of his while the other stroke and tugs on my hair gently.

He kisses the side of my neck as we make love harder.

He whispers, moaning. Your pussy feels so good! You feel fucking amazing!

I moan loud and whimper, so do you, baby, he moans, whispering, do you trust me, baby?

I moan, gasping yes! Yes, I do!

He picks up so much speed that the bed bangs against the wall. He holds me tight as I scream in pleasure. He moans loud into my shoulder. YES!! YES, CUM BABY CUM, I WANT YOU TO CUM HARD! LET IT FLOOD!!!

AAAAAAA YOUR PUSSY!!!! YES!!!

I SCREAM as loud as I can. I'M CUMMING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I start to shake so hard that I can't even breathe.

He talks into my ear as best as he can. Good girl! IM here, I'm here, your safe, cum for me! I orgasm even harder when he puts his and around my throat, looking into my eyes growling. You are so good. I love your body; I love everything about you.

My eyes roll from orgasming so hard, he picks up even more speed. He kisses me hard as he orgasms, letting go of my throat. Stroking my body, face, and hands.

We both scream when he pushes in and holds still.

We Press our forehead together, looking into each other's eyes. He mouths close to my mouth, "I fucking love you."

I mouth back, "I love you too."

Our orgasms finally calm down. Both of us breathe so hard we cant talk.

He manages to somewhat ask me if I am OK? And I just nod. He pulls out of me slowly and lays behind me, pulling me into his arms, yet another thing I had not experienced before. He lays his arm around me and kisses the back of my neck.

When we wake up a few hours later, he still has his lips to the back of my neck as he whispers his baby.

My whole body shivers in pleasure as I hear the words and feel his lips.

I take my hand behind his neck and whisper, hi baby before I kiss him.

He softly says, it is 2 hours before your cab gets here. He pulls me closer. Do you want to get some food?

I nod, and we kiss.

He helps me get dressed and up into my wheelchair. He asks whether I am sitting OK?

I nod as he kisses me.

We had a lovely dinner, and before I could blink, my cab was there to drive me home.

We kissed in the elevator all the way down. We kissed before I got into the cab. he whispered I will call you tomorrow, I whispered back to him, yeah. Thank you for not "seeing" my wheelchair baby. He whispered back I will never "see it" I will always SEE you.

The cab drove off to take me home.

I never heard from him again...

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To this day, that is the best Sexual experience I have ever had. I think it's so hard for me to forget it because it feels unfinished in a way.






























Friday, December 3, 2021

Stupid Boy.

 Hi everyone hope you all are doing well?

Most of you know, or I hope you do, that I decided to end my 18-month relationship With my second partner (second partner meaning not my husband), who I met in second life. In a previous post, I explained what led up to my decision. Of course, I didn't tell you everything in fine detail, but I used that post as a brain dump for myself.

I write to process and move on. It's something that I've always done and will continue to do.

I was searching on my tidal today, and I found this really great song by Keith Urban called stupid boy.

At this moment in my life, I feel that that song was written to make him listen to it, if that makes sense.

I have taken bits and pieces of the lyrics that really hit home. By doing this, I am processing and moving on slowly, but surely

some of you might be thinking, "how can it be hard for you to go through a breakup when you have a husband?"

I am polyamorous, which means that I can love more than just one person the same way as I love my husband, so going through a breakup for me is just as hard as in one else going through a breakup.

With that said, I also feel like I can kind of let go faster than others would, but that doesn't mean I stop processing and just move on.

What I process is the feeling of having a life without that person. I process what happened. I mourn the loss and the emotions.

I will leave a link to the post where I talk about the relationship I had with him, and also, I will leave a link to the original lyrics of the song stupid boy.


Well, she was precious, like a flower
She grew wild, wild but innocent
A perfect prayer in a desperate hour
She was everything beautiful and different

She laid her heart and soul right in your hands.
And you stole her every dream, and you crushed her plans.

She never even knew she had a choice.
And that's what happens when the only voice she hears is telling her she can't

So, what made you think you could take a life?
And just push it, push it around?
I guess to build yourself up so high.
You had to take her and break her down?

you always had to be right
But now you lost the only thing that ever made you feel alive,

Your the same old, same old stupid boy

It took a while for her to figure out she could run
But when she did, she was long gone, long gone

She never even knew she had a choice.
And that's what happens when the only voice she hears is telling her she can't



♥Tessa♥



Wednesday, December 1, 2021

Wait!....What?

 I feel myself getting more and more confident within myself for each day that passes. I am finding myself getting out of my house more in second life and actually doing stuff again. So a couple of days ago, I decided to be a little Adventurous by writing in a group, asking for new people to meet and be friends with.


So without thinking about it, I wrote the message, and I sent it out to God knows how many people are in second life because this group is quite significant.

I would say that within about 30 to 40 minutes, I had people writing to me. I didn't expect much, to be honest, because this group is known for having a lot of Newbies. Newbies is a term that People in second life use 2 identify a person that is not looking like she or he is in 2021 but more like 2008-2009. In other words, basic skin, walks like a duck, uses this prim hair, and so on and so forth.



For you to better understand what a newbie is, I will show you a photo.



I went on a deep dive into my second life closet (inventory) to not offend anyone else, so yes, this is my back in 2010 -2011. As you can see, I must admit this is not the proudest moment of my second life. So yes, this is what we in second life consider a newbie.

Believe it or not, there are still people that look like this in their 2021 second life.

Most people call them kevin's, basically somebody who has made an account, and they go around asking people to give them lindens, which is the currency used in second life. They will use the same type of message two a bunch of people just to get the lindens and scam people.

But of course, not everybody is a scammer or a beggar in second life, but they still look like the photos above.



I mean to each their own if they want to look like that, fine by me, but you won't get very far, at least not with me when you look like that.

This man started to chat with me, and I would say after 20 minutes, you wanted to meet me in person in second life. I wasn't that keen on it, but I agreed. Unfortunately, I can't tell you the person's name because that's against SecondLife rules, but nevertheless, I dropped down from teleporting.

and I voiced, so he started to voice as well

the first thing out of his mouth was, "Wow, I didn't realize how short you were, and I didn't realize how chubby you were"

My response was, well, this is me. Then he says," well, why don't you make a fantasy woman that's really tall and slender?

"because when you and I have sex, the animations in second life won't look right."

"I am not this tall in real life, and I'm actually really short," he continued,

"and I don't look like this because second life is a fantasy world" when I heard this.

in my head, I was going, "Lord have mercy, I hope to God you don't look like this in real life."

He bombarded me with how I should look, how tall I should be, how slender I should be.

This continued for about 15 minutes or so until I said, "look, you don't have to like the way I look, this is.me, I will never change, so you can stop trying to tell me what you don't like about me."



He became very quiet. I don't think he counted on me saying that to him. I said goodbye to him, and I dropped the call and went back home. Still a little bit shocked over what I had just heard.



I quickly let it go because I realized he was basically stupid.

a couple of hours after that, I went to my favorite spa in second life called breathe spa and bathhouse

There are usually many people there but not a lot of talking in local chests, unfortunately.



I started talking to this guy. He seemed very friendly but also weird in a way. from his profile, I could see that he and I had very similar interests when it came to real life, so I started talking to him about that when he suddenly says "oh, so you're not a hobbit?"

I kinda laughed in asked him, "why I would be a Hobbit?"

He responded by saying, "because of your similar size and proportions."



I didn't respond to him after that because I was so flabbergasted over what he had just told me.

I am a plus-size woman in second life, and I am a plus-size woman in real life. I don't hide behind anything, as you probably can tell by this whole blog.

I want the way I look in second life to reflect what I look like in real life! Why is that so hard for people to understand? I don't want to be slender, and I don't want to be the human version of a 2X4.

Most people say that second life is a fantasy world and nothing more, but why are we so fixated on "the perfect look" if it's not more than just a fantasy world?



I have repeated this time and time, and I will continue to say this until people understand.

To me, second life it's not a fantasy world, and it is virtual reality. Second life will never ever be a game, and to me, it is a virtual reality.



This means I will look exactly how I want to look, I will be as tall with short as I want to be, and I will be as plus-size as I ever want to be if you don't like that, well go look for someone else.
If second life is "just a game," Why are you freaking out over how an avatar looks? It shouldn't matter to you then, should it? Second life is more than "just a game" That's the whole point.

♥Tessa♥