Baby update♥

 On the 25th of July, 2023, I had my first doctor's appointment. I arrived about an hour early because I wanted to be on time and was super excited. When I came, I sat in the charming and professional-looking waiting room; they didn't have any magazines, so I just sat there and had a moment to myself. I was thinking about many things like I have spent 13 years in my second life, 13 years! I often reflect on what I have been through during that period and how different my life is now compared to then.

You can put it in simple terms and say that I have grown up because I have.

But there's so much more to it than just growing up.

I find this very interesting; ever since I became pregnant in second life, I often find myself rubbing my stomach both in my second life and real life every time I miss him.

 Yes, you can go ahead and call me crazy, but that's just how I am. When I am pregnant in my second life, I often feel "pregnant" in real life.

After reflecting for a little bit, I Got hungry. I went to the little cafe area that the maternity clinic has with vending machines for pizza is hamburgers, AKA a pregnant woman's dreams, but I decided not to go crazy, so I made myself a cup of coffee.

Yet again, I reflected on certain times in my life and how far I've come from that.

I get jolted back to reality when my doctor calls my name. We small talked for a bit, she checked my file, and then it was off to the bathroom for me to give a urine sample for those that don't know the first thing you have to do on every maternity appointment with this clinic.

After reflecting for a little bit, I Got hungry. I went to the little cafe area that the maternity clinic has with vending machines for pizza is hamburgers, AKA a pregnant woman's dreams, but I decided not to go crazy, so I made myself a cup of coffee.

Yet again, I reflected on certain times in my life and how far I've come from that.

I get jolted back to reality when my doctor calls my name. We small talked for a bit, she checked my file, and then it was off to the bathroom for me to give a urine sample for those that don't know the first thing you have to do on every maternity appointment with this clinic.

After giving my urine sample back to my doctor, it was time to head on over to the exam room, I was a little bit nervous, and I had butterflies in my stomach because I knew that at this appointment, I would be hearing the baby's heartbeat and seeing the baby for the very first time.

My doctor prepared herself by washing her hands, wearing gloves, and checking the urine sample test results. I went ahead and set it on the examination table.

Everything looked beautiful, but my doctor had a slight concern that she could see that I hadn't been drinking enough water, which is funny because I have a hard time drinking water even in real life.

As we talked, she gave me a little wireless monitoring patch that you are putting on yourself so that she can take your temperature, your blood pressure, Monitor and listen to the baby's heartbeat, and so on.

My doctor was amazed by how strong of a heartbeat my baby had. For only ten weeks he or she is only about nine weeks and three days at this point; that is the actual time of pregnancy.

Of course, I became very emotional when I heard the heartbeat. That is when it hits you that you are growing another human.

After doing all of the checkups for the baby and me, it was time to head to the ultrasound room; no, unfortunately, I didn't take any video of this or take a picture when I saw the baby on the ultrasound monitor due to the simple fact that I forgot.

I always get so emotional when it comes to these moments because it becomes so real to me. For this doctor to take the time to type out every step she does, including putting the ultrasound gel on my stomach, is worth more than anything; you may think that it's a very minor detail to do, but for me, it's enormous.

After giving me some information on what is for the baby, it's 10 weeks pregnant such as organs, fingers finding the suitable placements, checking measurements, and ensuring that the baby is developing typically. We talked briefly as my doctor wiped my stomach with the ultrasound gel. She prints out an ultrasound picture for me to take home. I slowly get dressed, and she reminds me to drink more water and check on the information cards she gave me for the next appointment.

VERY IMPORTANT NOTE HERE if you wish to have an ultrasound picture to take home, you must tell your doctor beforehand.

And also, the prize for the ultrasound picture is 250 lindens which is a minor cost for me but could be a considerable cost for somebody else.

And now, finally, the moment you've all been waiting for here is the ultrasound picture!

*SMILES*

until next time remember to LOVE /Tessa

10 weeks pregnant! The BEST maternity clinic second life♥

 Before reading anything on this blog, please refer to the "before you continue" section.

Hello everyone!

I am going to talk about pregnancy and having babies in this blog post, and I know that that topic can be triggering for some people, so if this topic is triggering for you, please kindly click away from this post.

I am 10 weeks pregnant as of yesterday, and it feels incredible. I returned to the maternity clinic I had with my last second-life pregnancy. The Family Center TP

if you have read my previous blog post, you know that I wasn't entirely sure how I would do this pregnancy, but after writing that post, I realized that I wanted a maternity clinic to go to.

The family center is the best maternity clinic ever in second life. It's the most realistic maternity clinic out there, so if you want realism down to the core of pregnancy and birth, this is where you can go.

this clinic is hyper-realistic

excellently and professionally,

when you become a patient, you have to fill in 3 forms:

One the patient form

Two, the informed consent form

Three disclosure agreements.

 

Remember that you, as the patient, will have to schedule your appointments with the clinic, including the birth, and for the delivery, you will have to block off 2 hours on their calendar.

 

This clinic is the best clinic you will ever find in second life

they do not charge you for maternity care! I repeat they do not charge you!

You get four entirely free appointments but have to pay for ultrasound pictures and keepsakes should you want them.

They don't even charge for you to give birth; they only charge you if you want a private birthing suite and keepsakes.

I mean, how amazing is that!

I have no problem paying for ultrasound pictures and keepsakes because, in real life, you would pay for the printout of the ultrasound pictures anyway; at least here in Sweden, we have to pay for it.

For myself, I chose a water birth. I informed my doctor that I would want ultrasound pictures and keepsakes. The whole 9 yards! My motto has always been Go big or go home.

The Family Center TP

*Take a deep breath*

I will be very open and personal with you and tell you why pregnancy is essential for me in second life.

In about two weeks, I will be turning 34 years old, and when it comes to pregnancy, I already know that having a baby is not in my cards, so being pregnant in second life allows me to experience something that won't ever be possible in real life.

I take being pregnant in second life very seriously; this might seem crazy to you, but now that I am pregnant in second life, I embody the pregnancy even in real life; yes, I'm fully aware that I'm not pregnant in real life, but I enjoy it I enjoy the feeling I enjoy everything that comes with being pregnant.

It was tough to accept that one of my biggest dreams in life would never happen for me. Especially when you feel like somebody has a new pregnancy announcement every day, and every one of them just has to look at their partner to get pregnant; I know that's not the case for many, but it still feels like it.

Adoption is not on my cards because I don't want to, and surrogacy is not on the cards because it is illegal here in Sweden. I wouldn't be able to connect with the surrogate mother or the baby even though it would be mine, but I would get angry and resentful towards the surrogate mother because she got pregnant and not me.

This is genuinely why pregnancy in second life is so crucial for me, and being able to be a mother with all that comes with that.

I hope I didn't offend anyone in any way, shape, or form; it was not my intention to do so. This is my safe space; this is my blog. I don't hold back; there will be some people that don't like my opinions and uncertain things, and I respect that fully. In return, I ask you to respect me.

♥Closing one chapter to let another one open♥

 Hello everyone, so sorry for my absence these past three weeks, but a lot has happened things that made me realize what I'm truly supposed to do.

The big reason for my absence was that I got the job in second life, not just any job. It was my dream job.

I had to quit because Something severe happened in my real life that I won't discuss right now, and I don't think I ever will.

But as soon as I said, "This will be my last shift. "I felt a huge relief. It was like I could breathe again. Of course, I felt sadness, but the overwhelming relief made me realize it was the right decision for me.

I put my heart and soul into Something but didn't feel welcomed. I felt as if I was just "in the way." That feeling pretty much hit me straight away, but I stayed because I thought it was Something that was going to get better as time went on, but it got worse. I even tried talking about it, but I could literary feel I was not getting through with what I was saying.

In the end, I felt bullied, and even though Something truly Terrifying happened in my real life, it made me make the decision that would happen sooner or later.

I would like to thank my friends who supported me during my time in the workplace, Especially my friend Dove. she was there when I truly needed someone to "hear my voice."

If you want to know more, feel free to contact me, but I will not go into more detail here.

I am a writer; that is the one thing that has remained constant in my life since I was 7 years old.

Later in life, when I found second life, I found Photography, so that is what I will keep on doing. Writing and taking photos.

If, and that is a big IF, I take on another job in second life, it will be where I feel welcomed and appreciated. 

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On the 6th of June 2022, I had my 15-week check-up at  The Family Center Maternity Clinic.

Everything is fine, and the little one is growing by the second it feels. While I was talking to My Dr, she explained that she has been forced to make some changes to have the clinic running; reasons I COMPLETLY  Understand and stand behind.

I urge you to please Make a donation to the clinic if you have Lindens to spare. She truly has one of the best clinics in second life.

During the three weeks unable to write. Because I felt like I didn't have time. I was so happy that more and more creators in second life are coming out with gorgeous baby furniture for Zooby babies.

My favorite stores so far are:

KAZZA

Black.Sand

I am so excited to see what more they will come out with.

It is good to be back in full swing doing what I love. Thank you so much for your unwavering support!

♥Tessa♥

♥Home after first doctors appointment♥

 

Oh, man! I hardly know where to start. My head is still spinning from experience. In a good way!

So my doctor's appointment was actually a few hours ago. Still, I am not kidding you when I say the experience with so vivid and so realistic that my head was spinning all over the place, so I could literally not sit down and make a blog post right away.

I was going about my business in second life when I got a message from my doctor asking if I could come in edit earlier due to her real-life job as a midwife.

And of course, I said yes as soon as I saw it because I have been waiting for this day for what feels like forever!

So my appointment was at 10 AM slt Instead of 12:00 PM slt. I scrambled to put on an outfit trying to look cute but comfy. I got there about 15 minutes early, so many end my doctor talked a little bit just in general before we started my appointment.

She explained that I would have to leave the urine sample at the start of every appointment, so she led me to the toilet, where the vivid realism started.

I literally had to go inside a bathroom, get a urine sample cup, go through the steps, and then detach the sample cup and give it to her.

We made our way into the exam room. I had to step on a scale to give her my weight. Then she told me to sit down on the exam table while examining the urine sample.

So I had to wait like 10-15 minutes. I thought that she would come over and explain how everything was fine and everything like that boy. Was I wrong! The urine test results started coming up in local chat. My mind was blown. I presume it had all the correct numbers, everything that you would look for as a doctor. Everything!

So we sat down, talked a little bit, and she explained that everything looked fantastic, but she was a little bit concerned about my weight. That always becomes a thing with me being plus-sized, But she did it in a very positive matter. She explained to me further that I may need a bit more exercise not to lose weight but to get my body ready for being able to push a baby out.

After talking briefly about that, she handed me a little monitoring patch that I had to stick on my belly after stripping down to my underwear, basically, so that is what you see on my stomach in the photo. She explained the monitoring patch is so that she can take my vitals, such as blood pressure temperature, and check the baby's health.

So I put it on, and she pushed a button. The heartbeat. I can't remember if it was on my monitor or on the ultrasound machine, but I wasn't prepared for what I heard. Next, it was the most beautiful thing I'd ever heard before.

Yes, I have a home doppler, so I have heard it before, 

but to actually be there in the exam room with all the equipment took the experience to a different level,

 and to be honest with you, I was in tears in my real life 

I could hardly type when she talked to me; I kept saying, “sorry, I'm so emotional.” She had me lay down on the exam table, and she put a little bit of ultrasound gel on my stomach. My head was glued to the monitor. She turns it on and guides the ultrasonic wand Over it. It didn't take me long to recognize the little one inside me.  He was taking the measurements and checking out the baby overall. Everything looked fine. We don't have to worry about spina bifida, a form of parallelization.

 The baby is born with a part of the spinal cord outside of the body on the back. If I remember correctly, the spinal cord is contained within a sack, but it's still outside of the body, which it shouldn't be.

Unfortunately, when I made this little video clip, it did not pick up any sound, so I'm sorry for that, but if you want to see the ultrasound, please click the video play button.

We talked a little bit. I mainly stayed quiet with a big smile, not wanting to disturb her too much when looking at the baby. I was trying to hide the fact that cheers for streaming down my face slowly, but I think she noticed it actually.

So after printing a few pictures for me to take home, she said everything looks OK, let us switch over to high definition now, end all my God, Oh my God, it's all I can say. This tiny thing inside me was moving a little bit and even stretching. It was so amazing to see.

My second life partner was a bit bummed that he couldn't be there with me due to real life, but yet again, he was there with me because we were talking a little bit via text as I was making the doctor's appointment. When I got home after I sent him the pictures and videos. He told me to remind him a day before the next appointment so that he could MAKE TIME for it.

Do you understand why I love this man the way I do?

Not many men would take time out of their day to go to a doctor's appointment in a virtual world because their second life partner it's pregnant!

And trust me, he is swamped in his real life, so saying that means everything to me.

My due date is around December 3rd, 2022

we don't know the gender yet. We will find that out when we go to my 20-week appointment in July.

I want to thank doctor Morrigan for the absolutely fantastic job and the passion she shows.

With both hands on my heart, I can say that the family center should be the only maternity clinic in second life. Trust me when I say that.

♥Tessa♥

ps. All of this is happening in a virtual world environment, but you have to understand something. Even though I know this is not real, it is as real as possible for me.

My feelings and my emotions or real there is nothing fake about them.

You might think it's a little bit weird to be in the world on your world platform and live in that virtual world as realistic as possible, But think about it for a second…. in real life, I don't have use in my legs I can choose to have use of my legs in second life. 

Second life is a place where people come to experience stuff that they might not be able to do in real life for whatever reason…

 So I don't have use in my legs in real life, and being pregnant might not be something I will ever be able to experience in real life.

 This is why this pregnancy being so realistic is very important to me. 

So please respect that.

♥Tessa♥

♥10weeks and 1 day♥

You guys can't believe I am 10 weeks pregnant already. Well, 10 weeks and 1-day technically, it feels like only yesterday we found out I was pregnant. I say we because I need to remember that I'm not alone in this, which feels fantastic.

I have noticed some rather funny changes within myself these past few weeks. For example, before I got pregnant, I was all about showing skin and sexiness, but I'm pregnant. I keep finding myself wanting to be more modest. I don't really know why but I just feel like I need to be more “covered up.”

I was contemplating putting on a two-piece bikini to go and lay down on the beach right outside Essencia Hotel for a little bit. Still, I found myself reaching for this bodysuit/Bathing suit because I yet again wanted to feel more covered.

I had the same feeling when going to the first yoga class at “my” maternity clinic, The Family Center.

This was so good that I felt so relaxed that I almost fell asleep in real life afterward, so I'm glad I signed up for all the yoga classes.

This might seem a little weird, but the moment a woman realizes that she is pregnant and is about to embark on a journey to motherhood, I feel like you immediately “tone down” her personality. You go into “motherhood mode.”

Can anybody relate to that?

Hearing the ocean and birds as I write this is calming and relaxing. Soaking up the sun also helps me to focus my thoughts. Don't worry. I have sunscreen protection on, and I am in the shade drinking water.

Sitting outside always makes me feel one with nature. I know that may sound really corny to some of you, but it's how I feel.

Another thing that I have noticed about being these past couple of weeks instead I feel so centered within myself and so present. Although some things can go a bit better in real-life situations, I woke up to a massive water leak in my house about two weeks ago now, but that's hopefully getting fixed soon.

As I've said in previous posts, I have done SecondLife pregnancies before. Still, I've always done them alone, which has made me feel lonely because I didn't have anybody to share the experience with. Still, I actually have somebody to share the experience with when it comes to this pregnancy. I'm not alone, which makes this experience unforgettable for me. He has a lot to do in no, but he still supports me in wanting something as simple as my yoga schedule and the doctors' appointment schedule. It's the little stuff he does that shows me that he cares. That's all I want, and that's all I need apart from him loving me, of course.

I've never been that type of girl who needs a man constantly by her side. I think that's a massive part of why he and I work so well together.

He comes on to second life, and before he does anything else, he asks me, “how are you 2 doing? it's everything OK?”

Small things like this mean the world to me.

We talk for a little bit, then he does his second life work. He is a photographer, so he's swamped at times.

Even when he's working in second life, I still feel connected to him because I can literally write him a message, and I know that he will respond as soon as he can, which makes me feel like he is still “with me” even though he is not by my side at that moment.

Tomorrow is a special day. Tomorrow I have my first doctor's appointment, which means I finally get to do an official ultrasound! I can't even tell you how excited I am. I can't put it into words. It is so exciting.

I say, official. I had an unofficial very early ultrasound done at six weeks because I just couldn't wait for the whole 10 weeks to be able to see him or her. although at six weeks, all you could see was a sack with fluid and a tiny “blob.”

Speaking of pregnancy, I can't remember how long it's been since I switched from kupra to ebody reborn. Still, I have had it long enough to say that this is the number one body for pregnancy, the number one with no exaggeration. This body has it all, and the shapes come out beautiful. so as far as the pregnancy body from legacy they can learn from the ebody reborn And then go back to the drawing board

in fact, every single female mesh body should learn from ebody reborn.

You can be sure that I will update you tomorrow after my doctor's visit!

♥Tessa♥

♥9 weeks today♥The family center.♥

Wow! I can't believe I'm 9 weeks pregnant already! to be honest with you, the pregnancies I have had in the past, the first few weeks were absolute pain because he seemed to get by so slow. I started to have morning sickness when I was around 7 1/2 weeks, and boy, I did not miss that part. Still, I genuinely believe that the first few weeks have been an absolute breeze to get by because I am so happy and content.

The big thing for me when it comes to pregnancy this time around is that I'm not alone. I am sharing this with somebody finally, and it makes me so happy I can't even describe it in words. Yes, I know it sounds cheesy, but hey, I love cheese, so why not.  

Another massive factor in why I'm so happy with this pregnancy is switching to ebody Reborn. I cannot tell you how badly you must try the ebody reborn. If you are tired, I'm trying to make the belly look right during pregnancy in second life.

The sliders work perfectly, and the belly does not look like a weird alien. Of course, you have to adjust your shape a little bit, but it's amazingly perfect for pregnancy!

The first few weeks of my pregnancy, I spent researching for the best maternity clinic in second life. During my first two pregnancies in second life, I went two a maternity clinic but let me tell you, it's not worth the lindens. Hence, in all of my other pregnancies after that, I basically had a home birth by myself because I realized that what they were doing and what they were getting paid for I could literally do by myself.

I even went back to a maternity clinic where I used to work just to see if anything had changed over the years. The only thing that had changed was the ridiculous pricing and some staff. First of all, if I wanted to have my baby at their clinic, I would have to buy a package, but then on top of the package I would have to buy a hud that is around 5000 lindens Because that hud connects equipment automatically, I didn't have the hud I couldn't Have them as my clinic. I already knew that I would not go with them as my clinic because it's totally ridiculous.

 

In second life, you have this conception hud. There are several, but this is the easiest one to use. It's called Mama-Allpa, so I went into that group chat and asked if there was a doctor that could do a very early ultrasound on me. And the doctor responded that if I go to the Mama-Allpa main store, there is a bulletin board of sorts with all the certified doctors to work with Mama-Allpa.

So I went there, and I found the most fantastic clinic with the most incredible doctor, and because I am using the Mama-Allpa, I don't have to pay for her services. It's totally free; my jaw dropped when I heard that from her.

The clinic I signed up with is the family center.

and my dr is Dr. Morrigan Horten ( I believe she is the boss.)

if you have the Mama-Allpa And do you want to get in contact with her, the easiest way is to go to the Mama-Allpa main store and find her on the Bulletin board

The family center is certified for the following 

Mama-Allpa

Hands-on Momma

❤Momma (Love Momma)

Eden RolePlay system.

Pediatrics for Funsies.

My first appointment is on the 2nd of May 2022, but I have already gone over there to peek around to get the feel of the place, and I absolutely love it. I also signed up for yoga, which I am so excited about!

While I was sneak peeking around, I actually bumped into my doctor!

She ended up showing me around the place. I got to go into the different birthing suites and the exam rooms. It is so realistic I had to basically just stand there and take it all in because I have never seen anything like it in my 12 years of being in second life. 

Here are a few words from Dr. Morrigan Horten herself!

" Dr. Morrigan Horten: I'm a semi-retired homebirth midwife IRL, and I train Doulas."

" Dr. Morrigan Horten: I've been doing obstetrics in SL for 15 years."

" Dr. Morrigan Horten: I've been certified with Mama Alllpa for over 10 and am a certified educator and examiner for the system."

" Dr. Morrigan Horten: I love folks having as close to a realistic experience as SL can afford while making sure it's very positive."

" Dr. Morrigan Horten: many folks have babies in SL to recover from a bad rl experience. I help many find a positive closure."

" Dr. Morrigan Horten: we don't do high risk here as I don't believe in recreating birth trauma."

" Dr. Morrigan Horten: I help guide folks through what is called a "Happy Path.""

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The vibe of the sim where the clinic is in the mountains of Southeast New Mexico.

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This little framed Board represents all of Dr. Morrigan Horten's babies that she helped enter this world THIS YEAR. Yes, just 2022!

I just feel so happy in this pregnancy. Everything is falling into place. There is nothing that I'm worried about or annoyed about. I'm just thrilled this time, and the fact that I happened to stumble on this beautiful clinic takes the pregnancy to a whole different level for me.

Please go to the family center if you want to have your baby in a calming, realistic environment.

You won't regret it.

My appointment is not for another week, but to be honest with you, I couldn't help myself, so I bought a home Doppler just to hear the baby's heartbeat when I was seven weeks. I know that that's a bit early, but I couldn't wait, so if you click play on the little video clip, you will hear my baby's heartbeat.

Link to home Doppler 

some info about when you can first hear a baby's heartbeat if you want to use the doppler realistically 

You can start hearing the baby's heartbeat as early as 6 1/2 to 7 weeks.

Another reason why I'm so excited to do this pregnancy is because of accessories like this look at this cute mummy bag. Have you seen anything cuter and anything more perfect than this? I mean, this is queen status!

this screams,” Yes, I am a mom, and/or I'm pregnant, and I'm The queen!"

Mommy bag from Movement 

75 Lindens offer! The 23rd of April 2022.

All I can say is that I am so over the moon.

Of course, I will blog after my first doctor's appointment, and I will also show you the baby if I get an ultrasound picture♥

♥Tessa♥