Monday, October 30, 2023

♥ Pick yourself before anyone else♥

 * Opens the door and slowly walks inside, throwing my keys on the side table. *

coming home to an empty house is something I am used to by now, but I'm not used to being alone.

I have been coming home to an empty house for three years; this is the first day in three years that I will be living alone.

It's very, very hard at the moment. My mind is very dark, but I'm trying to see the light up ahead three years, and I gave it my all. I did everything possible, but ultimately, I had to choose me. I had to decide to walk away from everything I ever said but still stand behind the words. I never say anything. I don't mean.

The tears had been streaming down my face for hours when I suddenly stopped, thinking to myself, "Why the hell am I crying? I mean, really, why am I crying? I have tried and tried and tried for three years…? I have been more than patient, borderline stupidly patient. I have given chances upon chances upon chances when I really should have just let go."

I went to the bathroom, washed my face, and looked in the mirror. "Pick yourself up because no one will do it for you." At that moment, I felt strong again and independent; I knew I saw myself again. I knew then that I had a way back and was not lost.

This will be one of the hardest things I've ever done, but I need to choose myself; I need to pick myself before anyone else.

/Tessa

Sunday, October 22, 2023

Dear Diary- Feeling the Feelings + Hoodlem – Maternity Products!

Hello, everyone. I hope you all are doing well. I am doing quite well. Although this time of year always throws me in a loop emotionally, I am not alone when it comes to that.

I have not updated on my pregnancy because my doctor's appointment discouraged me. It has taken me quite some time to process things, and before you jump to conclusions, it was not anything my partner did; my partner and I had a wonderful time at the appointment privately between us.

Since the appointment, I have decided to cancel my labor and delivery with them.

That is as much detail as I will give this.

I enjoy this pregnancy because of the interactive furniture provided by Hoodlem and the pregnancy belly I'm using; it's incredible.

I feel incredibly connected to the pregnancy, more so than I've ever done before.

I will leave links to Hoodlem and the pregnancy belly at the end of this blog post.


This time of year is always tough for me emotionally, and like I said at the beginning of this post, I don't think I'm alone in feeling this way, so yesterday, I decided to lay down on my bed, dim the lights, light the candle and put on a movie in second life. I'm doing the same thing right now as I'm writing this, apart from watching a movie.

Creating a calm, soothing environment actually helps me gather my thoughts and emotions in a better way.

As I watched The Equalizer 3, feeling my daughter kick and move around, I thought, "I used to be OK with being alone in Second Life; now I hate it?"

In those thoughts, I missed people I hadn't talked to or seen in years, wondering what they're up to now and if they are still walking this earth.

Rather than pushing those feelings away, I just laid in them, letting my mind come forward. I hope you can understand what I mean.

So many people push their minds and feelings away because the emotions and feelings are too much to feel. I understand why people are doing it, but I have found that if I let myself feel the feelings, whether good or bad, I always feel better.

I hope that makes sense to somebody out there; if it does not, well, I guess I'm crazy or something.

As of today, I am 23 weeks plus one day pregnant; it is starting to get a little bit uncomfortable laying down, so what I have found very, very helpful is the Hoodlem - Maternity Pregnancy Pillow (Flat)

Apart from being very comfortable, it also has incredibly realistic animations, five of them to be exact.

I can go on and on about Hoodlem – Maternity Products; they are incredible. As I said in this post, I have never felt as connected to my second life pregnancy as I do now. 

When it comes to the pregnancy belly, it's pretty tricky to get the right shape of the stomach itself, but once you figure out the sliders in your shape and what they do to the belly, it's incredible.

When it comes to clothing, the belly works with a rigged BOM Mesh, especially for the belly.

Hoodlem is absolutely knocking it out of the park regarding maternity clothing for this belly, particularly up to this point. I have every single clothing item that can be purchased for the stomach that Hoodlem has provided so far, and they keep on coming out with new things and clothing that is absolutely mind-blowing.

I am not sponsored by this company; I don't even know if they know I exist, so I'm not hyping them up for a profit because there is none; they are incredible.

Hoodlem Main store 

My belly 

♥Please leave a comment if you so wish I read every single one and respond to every single one♥ 

/Tessa

PS I know the picture is dark, but if you click on it, you can enhance it.