♥ Disability and sex ♥

 

Disclaimer!!!! 

I don't see a line between second life and real life. I blend the 2 like tie-dye.

That's why I can write the blog the way I do

In the past few days, I have encountered people that have solidified exactly why I need to bring disability awareness to the forefront of second life.

And, of course, I'm not taking all the credit myself. I could have never done this without my best friend and sister CC. This past month has really been an eye-opening experience for me. I knew there would be many Misconceptions about People with different disabilities because I have held lectures for students all over the country about how it is to live with a disability ever since I was 14 years old. I am now 31.

So I knew what I was getting myself into and what I possible could face.

Now I want to point out that me being a wheelchair user in second life is not a Social experiment, nor is it a joke. I am not doing this to prove a point either.


I am doing this for myself. I am putting myself out there to be more confident, to boost my self-esteem to not look at my body as If I am damaged. To not look at me as less of a woman.

The moment I started using my wheelchair in second life, something shifted. It was like I became something other people were and are afraid to touch, and if they did, they would talk and handle me as if I was going to break or that they were going to say something that would offend me.

as if it would be ok to say to a woman that has a fully functioning body, "Hey, can I use your face to cum on?" or "I want to gangbang your body!"

Apparently, it is okay for that woman to get offended and mistreated, but it's a different story when you're in a wheelchair.

Why?

The only 2 reasons that are separating me from that woman is

She CAN walk.

I CAN'T.

She HAS full movement in her body.

I DON'T.

If you Exclude the fact that I am in the wheelchair, what am I then?

 

I am just like her.

People seem to have this weird misconception that people with different disabilities cannot have sex or is not sexually active, and when people find out that that is so far from the truth, they don't seem to believe it. to be 100% honest, there are a lot of people with disabilities that aren't sexually active, but I believe that a big part of the reason why they aren't is that first and for most, they have not found the right one but a very close second is the fact that people still have it in their head that people with disabilities can't have sex, they don't need it, or worst of all, people with disabilities should not have relationships, be married or "god forbid!" have a sex life

I am afraid to say this, but I have come to find out that these terrible misconceptions exist in second life.

I have them being a person that has seen my disability as a reason to not put myself out there when it comes to my sexuality and finding out what I like and what I don't like. On my 18th birthday, the first thing I did was sign up on a website where you could meet people, go on dates, and just have sex.

I didn't go on many dates because the guys usually backed out last minute.

But mostly, I waited for the right one.

I had my sexual depute when I was 19 years old and was in a long-term relationship with my very first boyfriend.

I feel very blessed in a way because, as I have previously stated, most people with disabilities will never ever have a sexual depute. It feels so weird to say, but it is the truth.

How does this tie into second life?

Because second life is closer to real-life than people might think or want to admit.

Second life before my wheelchair does not even begin to compare to the way it is now. In a way, I really enjoy it, but in a way, I think it is sad as well.

It is sad to see how a wheelchair can desexualize me in the way that it has. It is sad to see how a wheelchair suddenly makes me unattractive.

For myself, I have always looked at sex as a natural thing to have, and I have always been a very sexual person.

So sex has never really "scared me." or been something that I have shied away from just because of my disability.

When it comes to sex, I see my disability as something fun. Let's say that your guy comes home from work, and he just wants to take you right then and there. He can just lock the wheelchair, pull your legs so that you are Slouching. Go down on his knees and eat you out.

or suddenly lift you up, throw you over his shoulder and say "we are going to bed," then spank you

or why not him coming up behind you, kiss and nibble on your neck while he pushes the wheelchair with his legs, holding you around your waist, and whisper, "Mmmm, I am going to have my way with you."

There are so much you can do and enjoy even if you have a disability

. You can use belts, ropes even silk ties! Your guy could tie a belt around your waist and help you ride him if you don't have the use of your legs.

Personally, I do love it when the guy helps me into different positions. It makes me feel sexy because I know that it is a position that he loves witch makes me even more aroused.

He might be kissing my neck as he gets my legs around him or on his shoulders. That way, you take the awkwardness out of it, I feel.

I might have a sexy rope outfit on *Points to the top of the page*

which he can use to pull me into different positions or different directions.

Just because you might have a disability does not mean you CAN'T do what everyone else does. You just have to do it differently. You have to do YOU.

/Tessa